I know you are tired of investing your emotions, time, and energy in unworthy guys, only to end up heartbroken and alone again and again. I know you’re tired of trusting and giving your heart to guys who didn’t know what to do with it. Guys who didn’t know how to handle the intensity of your love, the purity of your soul, and your kindness. Guys who took you for granted.
And just as any other smart, strong woman, you’ve worked hard to finally be happy and satisfied with your life. You’ve found peace and there’s no way you are going to allow someone to just enter your life and take all that away from you.
On the other hand, you still want to experience true, deep, intense love. You still want to find someone who will love you with the same intensity you’ll love him. Someone who will prove worthy of your trust and love. Someone who will show you that love doesn’t have to be hard and painful. Someone who will never let go of you and break your heart.
Well, you’re in the right place. Here’s how you can open up to love, but also protect your happiness, peace, and, of course, heart:
1. Never date guys with low self-esteem.
If he doesn’t love and respect himself, there’s no way he will love and value you. Someone who doesn’t believe in their own abilities and values will never believe in your own too.
Dating such a guy means being with someone who will treat you like you’re not good enough. Someone who will expect you to change and be someone you’re not because they don’t believe in your value. Dating such a guy will be more of a torture than a pleasant, enjoyable, life-fulfilling experience.
2. Ensure his values regarding relationships and family match yours.
Take the time to analyze the life he’s created. Does he have healthy, harmonious, meaningful relationships with his family and friends? Is he a responsible and principled person? Does he manage his finances wisely?
What about his ex-girlfriends – is he still in contact with them, or he’s put those relationships in his past? These are all important things you need to take into consideration before you finally decide if you should let him into your life.
3. Pay attention to his actions (not his words).
It feels great when someone tells you “I love you” and showers you with compliments and sweet words. But the real question is whether they really mean it.
So, let his actions speak louder than his words. Pay attention to the way he treats you and how he shows his love for you. Make sure he’s caring, thoughtful, and patient with you. Make sure he’s always honest and keeps his promises. Make sure he treats you with kindness, compassion, respect, and, of course, lots of love and affection.
4. Never ever tolerate his bad behavior.
Think about all the behaviors that broke your heart in your previous relationships. Was your ex fickle, irresponsible, judgmental, detached, negative, or maybe aggressive? Well, these are the red flags you should be always looking out for when falling in love with someone.
If you notice that your current Prince Charming displays the same bad behaviors, never put up with them. Instead, ask him to change his behavior, and if he can’t or simply doesn’t want to do that, then you know what you should do – show him the door. You deserve to be treated with love, respect, and dignity, and you’re not under any obligation to put up with someone’s crappy behavior.
5. Ensure he includes you in all aspects of his life.
When you honestly and deeply love someone, you welcome them in every part of your life. You want to spend more time with them and enjoy being in their company. You include them in your plans for the future.
So, think about the following things: Does your current bae show he’s excited for having you in his life? Has he already introduced you to his family and friends? Does he show he’s proud of you? Does he imagine his future with you? If you answered all the questions with a yes, know that he’s a keeper, but if you didn’t, you should better put an end to the relationship before it gets more complicated.
6. Make sure you feel happy and fulfilled when you are with him.
When you’re with the right guy, you feel happy and fulfilled. You feel comfortable and warm on the inside in their presence. Of course, every couple has their ups and downs, which means that you’ll face many challenges, obstacles, and problems in the relationship.
However, if most of the time you feel stressed, disappointed, and unfulfilled, and you feel like you’re walking on eggshells when he’s around, it might be time for you to let go of him and move on.
7. Wait until you’re ready to be intimate with him.
Okay, don’t roll your eyes. Not allowing someone to jump into your bed on the first date doesn’t make you old-fashioned or “hard to get.” Instead, it means you respect and value yourself enough to know to whom and when you’ll surrender yourself completely. Because when you love someone, you love them with every part of yourself. You love them with your heart, soul, mind, and body.
And the man who is truly interested in you and cares about you will wait until you’re ready. And if he doesn’t respect your attitude to it and constantly insists you get intimate, then you know – he’s definitely not the ONE for you.
8. Make sure he’s truly into you.
When a guy is really into you, he’ll make sure you know it. He won’t make you second-guess his feelings for you. Instead, he’ll wear his heart on his sleeve and let you know how much you mean to him.
So, think about if this is how your guy treats you. If he is, keep him. If he is not, let go of him.
Riley Cooper is a professional writer who writes informative and creative articles on topics related to various fields of study. Written with love and enthusiasm, her articles inspire readers to broaden their knowledge of the world, think and get ready to act.