Relationships should be about mutual understanding, respect, love and above all, exclusivity.
I’m sorry, but I was raised to search for love that won’t make me wonder where my partner is at 2 am in the morning. I was raised to believe in love between two human beings. In other words, I am a monogamous person.
Is that too much to ask for?
Is it too much to ask for a partner who would respect you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated?
Look I understand that we all have our priorities in life, and there are times when some are more important than others, but you still deserve to be loved.
So, you have to wake up from your fake fairytale and realize that to him you’re just an option. His behavior shows it. His absence indicates this. His whole indifference about you shows how he sees you. You cannot keep doing this to yourself. You cannot prioritize someone who sees you as a one-night or a one-week fling.
Be honest with yourself.
Do you feel like he hides your relationship? Does he usually take you to places where no one knows him? Does he point out that he doesn’t want his pictures taken? Does he avoid holding your hand in public?
Don’t be afraid to answer these questions. I know it is hard, but if the answer is yes, then I’m sorry to inform you but you’ve just hit a red flag. It is flashing so much that it’ll literally blind you if you don’t get a hold of yourself and wake up.
You have to open your eyes to the truth. You are just an option for him. Another helpless fish in the sea. Another convenient girl. Another fling. Nothing else.
He’s not putting the same effort you do. He’s not fighting for this relationship to succeed. He doesn’t love you with the same intensity you love him. He doesn’t work hard to overcome the difficulties in your relationship. He simply doesn’t care enough for you.
But, you… Oh, you are invested. You are all in. You’re giving yourself away for someone who simply isn’t worth it. Someone who has nothing to offer you. Something who only sees you as a disposable doll.
I don’t care if he makes you laugh. I don’t want to hear about how he’s really affectionate when you’re alone, but then he pretends you’re his friend when you’re in public. I just don’t want to support your bullsh*t, fairytale, make-believe story.
It’s clear as a day. He doesn’t care for you and he will never put you first on his priority list. I know it hurts, but this is for your own good. You have to get it through your head that this person will never be the man you expect him to be.
Think about it. If he really wanted to be with you, he would have already held your hand and we wouldn’t have had this conversation. It’s that simple.
So, save yourself the time and the precious energy and let go of this man. Re-evaluate the importance of this relationship in your life, and analyze all of your options.
Is this really what you want?
Is this really what you hoped for?
I know it isn’t. So, please don’t settle. Don’t put yourself in a position where you have to beg to be loved and appreciated. Value your efforts, your energy, your time and above all, value your emotions. The real ones will recognize this and love you more than you can imagine.
So, let this be a reminder to you.
You deserve to be with someone who will make you a priority in his life. you deserve the whole world. You deserve to be loved.
Because you, my dear, are worth it!
A professional writer with many years of experience in the fields of psychology, human relationships, science, and spirituality.