I’m Gradually Learning That I Don’t Have To React To All The Things That Upset Me

I’m gradually learning that the energy it takes to react to every little thing that bothers you sucks your energy. It leaves you mentally and emotionally drained. It robs you of your happiness and peace of mind. It prevents you from seeing the positive things in life.

I’m gradually learning that I don’t have to get even with those who hurt me. I know it can be quite hard to just let the hurtful things others say and do to you slide and not give them a taste of their own medicine.  

But I also know that if I lash back at them the same moment they try to bring me down (or later), I’ll feel stronger and relieved, but this will last only for a while. If I start paying back whenever I get hurt, I’ll tire myself. I’ll let their negative energy enter my mind and body.

I’m gradually learning that the best indicator of maturity and independence is walking away instead of wreaking vengeance on those who don’t even deserve a bit of my attention.

I’m gradually learning that not reacting doesn’t mean I’m fine with things. It just means I’m willing and strong enough to move forward. It means that I’m not going to let it destroy my confidence and self-esteem and perceive it as a failure. Instead, I’m going to accept as a lesson and learn from it.

It means that I’m choosing to be better and do better. I’m choosing my own happiness and peace of mind because that’s what I need. I don’t need to be surrounded by people who create drama and stress in my life. People who make me feel like nothing I do will ever be good enough. People who undermine the importance of my achievements and tell me that they’re not a result of my efforts and abilities, but sheer luck.

I don’t need people who lie to me and manipulate me to serve their needs. People who tell me I’m not worthy and good enough. But, I’m slowly learning that the way other treats me says more about them than about me.

I’m gradually learning that not all people will like me and treat me the way I want. But, I’ve realized that reacting to every little thing they say or do that bothers me gives them power over my emotions and reactions. It makes me fall under their influence.

But most importantly, I’m gradually learning that no matter how hard I try to solve the disagreements I have with other people, this won’t change anything. This won’t make them respect or love me more.  

I’m gradually learning that sometimes it’s wiser to let things be. That it’s better to solely concentrate on my own life and how I feel about myself.

I’m gradually learning that there’s no point filling my heart with anger and anguish by worrying about what others think and say about me. Doing this is nothing but a waste of time.

I’m gradually learning that not reacting to all the things that bother me and focusing on my inner peace instead, is the first step to living a healthy, happy, fulfilled, successful life.


Riley Cooper is a professional writer who writes informative and creative articles on topics related to various fields of study. Written with love and enthusiasm, her articles inspire readers to broaden their knowledge of the world, think and get ready to act.