Like it or not, money makes the world go round. So, naturally, finances play a huge role in our lives. That includes our romantic relationships as well.
We’ve all heard the unfortunate life story of a close relative who struggled with an abusive husband and couldn’t find a way to get out of the toxic relationship because everything she owned was seized and controlled by him.
The person I personally knew found a way to save herself from the wicked claws of her toxic partner. But, unfortunately, not all of the people are lucky and strong enough to do that. Some succumb to the pressure and surrender. Others fight, but eventually, they give up.
That is exactly what inspired me to write this.
And that is why you need a f*ck-off fund.
Now, I know that some of you are probably rolling your eyes and wondering what that is. So, to all of you who have never heard of this word before, a f*ck-off fund is literally your way of existence. Your own savings. Your own money account.
When you think about it, it shouldn’t be called that way, because every single person should understand how important it is to be completely independent. But, regardless of how you like to call it, this is something that every woman should have. And I hope you know why I am specifically referring to women in this article.
We live in a society that is fighting hard to promote gender equality. But, despite the efforts to stop women oppression, there are women who are still going through that hell.
As I said earlier, we all know a friend, a relative or a college who struggled or still struggles with an abusive, controlling partner. So, this goes to all of you ladies. I know that it is difficult for you, but you can do it. Just remember that when you finally find the courage to speak up, we will be there to support you!
For now, please hear me out!
You should never expect anyone to support you. It is good to have kind, honest friends and family that loves you, but these people will not always be around. Things change. Tomorrow doesn’t always come for all of us. You are the only one you can truly rely on.
No matter how loving your relationship is now, you can never predict what the future has in store for you. There are a thousand examples of people who have lost everything they ever owned to their husband. Having your own fund of money is having your own back.
Finances are a powerful asset and all of the manipulators know this. When you are not dependent on anyone else but yourself, no one can take advantage of you or harm you. Self-care is not only treating yourself to a spa session on a weekday. Self-care is protecting yourself by working hard on yourself and relying on who you are as a person.
Following your own interests, developing your own career, working hard on your goals and creating a fund on which you can depend on is not only a smart thing to do – it is the most essential rule for a good and happy life.
Don’t ever allow to be treated less just because of your gender. The fact that you are a woman does not make you unable to work, chase your dreams and earn your own goddamn money. You are a strong human being.
I rely on my f*ck-off fund and so should all of the women out there.
Being able to stand on both your feet and have total control over your life is not a privilege, it is a natural right for equality.
A professional writer with many years of experience in the fields of psychology, human relationships, science, and spirituality.