We all feel we deserve respect from others but has it ever occurred to us to stop and ask ourselves whether we’re respecting the person staring at us in the mirror? I believe I know the answer.
Unfortunately, people wrongly think that respect means following the norms, agreeing with everything someone says or praising or worshipping someone because you respect them or the other way round. But, respect is so much more than that. Respect is about being true to and have confidence in yourself. It’s about listening to your thoughts and emotions.
Respect is about accepting and cherishing yourself just the way you are, with all your quirks, irritating habits, insecurities, and fears. It’s about treating yourself with kindness, compassion, and love. Respect is about feeling comfortable in your own skin.
When you don’t accept yourself the way you are and feel comfortable in your own skin, you project onto other people what you don’t like and accept about yourself. And in this way, you’ll never be able to respect others and yourself as well.
Here are 8 things you do that show you’re disrespecting yourself:
1. You’re angry.
You hold grudges against other people. You fill yourself with anger and resentment thinking about how to get even with those who hurt you. But, holding grudges won’t make the person who did you wrong feeling hurt as you think. You only make yourself feel more dissatisfied with both yourself and your life.
2. You seek other people’s approval.
Other people’s opinions and expectations of you don’t and can’t determine your worth. No matter how good you are to others, there always be those who will say bad things about you and criticize you.
You’re the master of your own life. You don’t need others to tell you how to live it.
3. You judge yourself.
When you’re self-critical, it means you don’t feel comfortable with who you are. You find it hard to accept yourself the way you are. Yet, you need to understand that negative self-talk and insulting yourself won’t help you change what you don’t like about yourself.
4. You put yourself last.
You always pay attention to and care about the feelings, needs, opinions, and problems of other people, but you rarely do so for yourself. You spend your time and energy on helping others solve their problems while neglecting yours.
Bu if you don’t make yourself a priority, know that no one else will do that for you.
5. You do things you don’t like.
Whether you’re in a relationship that does you more harm than good, or having a job you don’t enjoy at all or hanging out with people who don’t deserve your attention and love, you are stuck doing things that you don’t like and make you unhappy.
If you continue doing this, you’ll never be able to enjoy life to the fullest and achieve happiness.
6. You hide your emotions.
Whether you feel worried, sad, depressed, or angry, you pretend like everything is okay. But, how can you feel comfortable in your skin and be true to yourself if you don’t allow your emotions to come to the surface and vent your anger?
Learn to accept your emotions. Never be ashamed of them.
7. You can’t accept bad things.
Bad things are a part of our life. Ignoring them won’t solve your problems and make you feel better about yourself. You need to learn to face whatever challenge and problem life sends your way. It’s the only way you can respect yourself and become stronger.
8. You’re hard on yourself.
When you make a mistake or fail to accomplish a goal, you come too hard on yourself. You indulge in self-criticism and negative self-talk. But, if you’re not valuing and supporting yourself through difficult times, no one else will do that for you.
Riley Cooper is a professional writer who writes informative and creative articles on topics related to various fields of study. Written with love and enthusiasm, her articles inspire readers to broaden their knowledge of the world, think and get ready to act.