We’re all aware of what kind of people narcissists are, and yet, many fall into their toxic trap over and over again. And having been burned by a couple of narcissists myself, I know how easy it is to end up in a dangerous, toxic, life-sucking relationship that leaves you feeling drained and hurt.
Narcissists manipulate your thoughts, play with your feelings, and twist your perception of reality. They hide behind a self-inflated image of themselves. They appear charming, kind, and loving on the outside, but, in fact, they’re uncaring, self-absorbed, indifferent, and cruel.
On the other hand, we know what kind of people empaths are. They’re caring and compassionate. They feel other people’s feelings and energies, and when they notice someone is hurt or feels sad, they do their best to help them and alleviate their pain.
Due to their highly sensitive nature and need to help others, empaths often have a hard time establishing clear boundaries for themselves, and this often negatively affects their mental, emotional, and physical health. Moreover, this also makes them an easy victim for people who want to take advantage of them.
With that being said, can you put narcissists and empaths together? No, I don’t think so. So, why is it that these two diametrically opposed types of people feel such a powerful, magnetic attraction towards each other? There’re different theories, but at the heart of it, I believe that this is the way life creates balance.
Both narcissists and empaths face their opposite selves and both are forced to experience pain, learn from each other, and grow. And what all empaths need to understand is that they can never “fix” or “heal” the narcissist in their life. The only person who can “fix” a narcissist is themselves.
There are 4 types of narcissists all empaths should look out for, but before we present them, let’s take a look at the two main types of narcissists:
These people tend to be shy and quiet. However, to compensate for their feelings of unworthiness and self-hatred, they create an idealized image of themselves.
They have no respect and consideration whatsoever for other people’s feelings and opinions. Their greatest fear is being rejected and abandoned, which is why they’re incapable of loving someone honestly and unconditionally.
All they care about is to get attention and admiration from others.
These people are extremely self-confident, self-centered, and unsympathetic. They have a strong need to be the center of attention, and they relentlessly seek recognition, praise, power, and pleasure.
They consider themselves as superior to everyone else and they’re incapable of creating meaningful, deep relationships with others.
And here are the 4 subtypes:
1. The Elitist Narcissist
These people reflect the traditional image of narcissists: that of an entitled, highly self-confident people. This kind of narcissists is prepared to do anything to climb the social ladder, and, of course, get to the top.
They’re convinced that they’re better than and superior to everyone else due to their successes or backgrounds, and they feel a strong need to dominate others.
No matter how absurd and even funny it may sound, but Elitist Narcissists believe they were born as the smartest, most beautiful and capable people, and therefore they deserve special treatment. And this unrealistic and unmerited expectation of favorable treatment by others is present in every area of life, from family environment to work.
2. The Amorous Narcissist
This kind of narcissists measures their self-worth and power by how many sexual partners they’ve had in their life. They use their charm and attractiveness as well as gifts and flattery to lure their prey into their trap.
Yet, once their needs and desires are satisfied, they dispose of their victim like a puppet without feeling any shame or guilt.
That’s why these narcissists have the reputation of being the ultimate heart-breakers.
3. The Compensatory Narcissist
In order to compensate for their weaknesses, failures, and past traumas, this kind of narcissist emphasizes their achievements and present themselves as being the smartest, most capable and successful people.
In order to regain control over their life, these narcissists look for emotionally vulnerable people who will listen to their stories about how accomplished and successful they are and how amazing their life is.
4. The Malignant Narcissist
The behavior of this kind of narcissists often matches that of people with antisocial personality disorders, such as sociopaths and psychopaths. They lack moral principles and values and they’re incapable of feeling guilt and remorse for their actions.
If you have something that they want, they’ll stop at nothing to get it, and they won’t bother at all whether their actions will hurt you.
Malignant Narcissists can often be found in gangs, prisons, and drug rehabilitation centers.
Riley Cooper is a professional writer who writes informative and creative articles on topics related to various fields of study. Written with love and enthusiasm, her articles inspire readers to broaden their knowledge of the world, think and get ready to act.