It’s not a secret that narcissists are attracted to people that they can get the greatest advantage of. They’re not interested in building meaningful, harmonious, long-term relationships with others. Instead, what they’re looking for is someone who will be easy to control and manipulate and who will boost their ego.
They want to be with someone who is not going to be a threat to their self-inflated image of themselves and steal the spotlight. So, who do you think is narcissists’ best and most favorite victim? Yes, you guessed it – the empath.
I know it’s difficult to imagine an entitled, self-absorbed, emotionally unavailable person and a sensitive, compassionate, loving one being together in a relationship, but the truth is that these two diametrically opposed types of people are commonly attracted to each other.
Are you wondering what their relationship looks like? Well, here are the 17 stages narcissists and empaths go through in their relationship:
1. The empath gets attracted to the narcissist. They start a relationship. The empath is deeply and unconditionally in love with the narcissist although the latter doesn’t really bother to develop a strong, meaningful connection with them. The empath feels happy and satisfied and wrongly believe that their feelings for the narcissist are reciprocated.
2. The empath falsely believes that they’ve finally met the love of their life – the kind of love that only a few are lucky enough to find. Of course, the narcissist affirms and strengthens the empath’s false beliefs by creating an illusion that causes the latter to think that what they feel for each other is special. The empath gets so deep in love with and attached to the narcissist that it’s almost impossible for them to break free.
3. As time passes, the narcissist will try to ruin the empath’s confidence and self-esteem. They’ll try to take absolute control over the empath and the relationship as well. They’ll ensure they’re the ones who will handle bills or make all the important decisions in the relationship.
The empath will never openly oppose the narcissist or call them out on their behavior. And gradually, they’ll stop believing in their strength and abilities and doubting their self-worth. What’s even worse is that they’ll start believing that they really need the narcissist in their life and that they’ll never find anyone who will “love” them the way the narcissist does.
4. The empath will fully devote themselves to the relationship. Their top priority will be to satisfy the narcissist’s needs and desires and make them happy. The narcissist will present themselves as a victim of their past relationships and circumstances. And, in turn, the empath will try to make it up to them.
5. The empath realizes that their relationship is not what they always thought it was. Yet, they feel afraid to talk about this to the narcissist and fight for their needs. Therefore, they’ll try to please the narcissist and avoid talking about their problems.
6. The more invested into the relationship the empath is, the more in control the narcissist feels. The latter makes the empath behave as it suits them.
7. This is the point where the empath can’t take it anymore. They can no longer put up with the selfish, condescending, cruel behavior of the narcissist. And when they speak out and stand up for themselves, the narcissist acts like they’re offended.
8.The narcissist disrespect the empath’s feelings. They call the empath “too emotional,” “needy,” and “crazy” when they start complaining about their behavior. This is how the narcissist plays with the empath’s mind and gains more control over them.
9. The empath finds all this very confusing. They begin blaming themselves for all the bad things in the relationship and they wonder if they’re worthy of the narcissist’s love.
10. The empath doesn’t understand that they’re being manipulated by the narcissist. They don’t realize that they’re just one more pawn in the twisted, wicked world of the narcissist. Therefore they believe that they’re the ones to be blamed for the problems in the relationship.
11. The empath feels hurt and lost. Yet, despite all the pain they go through, they try to stay calm and think about what brought them into this position.
12. The empath has to understand that not everyone is worthy of their attention and love. They have to realize that not all people are honest, loyal, and committed as they are.
13. The empath realizes that they’re the ones who have been the victim the whole time in the relationship, not the narcissist.
14. Although it’s a painful decision for the empath, but they know that they need to break free from the narcissist and move on with their life.
15. The narcissist will move on like nothing happened. Like no one ever loved them so honestly and wholeheartedly. Yet, they’ll know that they’re unable of building a deep, meaningful bond with anyone, including themselves.
16. The narcissist will begin their search for a new victim.
17. The empath will come out wiser, stronger, and more confident. Being in the toxic relationship with the narcissist has taught them how to fight for and believe more in themselves. It has also taught them that they need to be careful about who they put their faith into.
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